pls advice

stillheart · #1 13-09-2011, 11:48 AM

i known a gal working in a pub in jb , we were together for 8months . I found out she out a boyfriend of 4yrs. but this bf only accompany her 2days a week.
i support her these 8 months , she seems to have many problem.i settle her gambling debts and many other probs. total amount is about 80k rm.

when i found out she got bf , i left her, she came crying and begged me to stay.
she say give her time to talk to the other guy.
she got no feelings for him already but the guy helped him alot.
the guy is like her hubby, he got keys to her hse.
whatever he ask her to do , she will do it. exp. when he ask her not to work she rest and accompany him. but if i ask her to rest and accompany me . she say cannot.

i trust her and didn't left her, i help her get but her pawn tix abt 4k , and settle some debts of 8k again.but i got myself another gf to spite her. she now treat me coldly , dun call me and dun want to meet.she left me waiting outside her door for 1.5hr. and she went supper with client.

i feel very cheated, so am i? i was thinking to tell her current bf what have she done.
you think i should ?

alan0338 · #2 13-09-2011, 11:52 AM

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Originally Posted by stillheart

i feel very cheated, so am i?

yeah u kena cheated, but by urself...

Ichigo_Kurosaki · #3 13-09-2011, 11:56 AM

TS, this post is very similar to previous threads here some months back

http://www.sbfsg.org/showthread.php?t=241570

http://www.sbfsg.org/showthread.php?t=241569

How many Malaysian girls exactly?

stillheart · #4 13-09-2011, 12:14 PM

its the same gal ...still dragging...

haiz...

jf66312 · #5 13-09-2011, 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by stillheart

its the same gal ...still dragging...

haiz...

let go ba....no point dragging...you already wasted alot of money and time on her....

alan0338 · #6 13-09-2011, 04:06 PM

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Originally Posted by stillheart

its the same gal ...still dragging....

chey, only 8 months nia, carry on lying to urself even 8 years also not surprising

zuer · #7 13-09-2011, 04:19 PM

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Originally Posted by stillheart

its the same gal ...still dragging...

haiz...

it is your choice, maybe you enjoying it unconsciously. Suggest u just leave her, but u can continue if you like it that way

wells · #8 13-09-2011, 04:21 PM

Tell her bf for what you did? Later the bf will say the money has been spend on him then you lagi upset.

Time to let go..you let go. There always a better tomorrow.

Stimsia · #9 16-09-2011, 12:04 AM

你情我愿
With Prc just like buying share
Catch a gd one, roi can be satisfying
Catch a lousy one, it's spare cash down the drain...

MrGreen · #10 16-09-2011, 01:14 AM

Sorry, but I tot the advice for newbie was to stay clear of emo attachment.

ddog · #11 17-09-2011, 09:55 PM

Bro, you've to understand gals. If she says her heart isn't with him, there's a chance she's telling the truth. Just that part of her is unwilling to let her bf go just yet.

I had an almost similar situation as you 1+years ago. The gal I like, she was with her bf, but told me to hold on. I was thinking... I'm such a fool to hold on, while daily, he calls her, imagine how I felt, being right beside her, while she smiles and talk to him. The jealousy is describable.

Time to time, she's out with him too! While she goes out with me as well. I threaten to go off, but again and again she asked me to hold onto her. To make the long story short, they eventually broke up, and she's mine ever since.

Think if you're evil enough, you might even want to hint to her bf, that you're with her. That way, he'll let her go more easily. Making a girl jealous your way is a big nono... as it might just kill her feelings and reconciliation would be more difficult (to explain).

All in all just try to remind her, if you don't care or luv her, you'll not be spending so much $ on her. You've to weigh the consequences too, are you getting her to feed your ego, or as a wife material. Not many can accept pub gals as a life partner. You're getting her as a trophy or what? I know because I myself sometimes want a partner just to look good beside me or that I didn't want to lose her to someone else even if I don't luv her. But If you think she's the one for you, and you've decided, then best of luck in getting her. Otherwise catch another fish.

cookiemonsta · #12 18-09-2011, 01:45 AM

something perhaps you've neglected to ask yourself
does she have the same feelings for you?
then you have to ask, what do you want out of this?
do you intent for this relationship to become permanent?
or simply a trophy g/f?
you'll have to make the final decision...
if you are hoping this relations will eventuate into something more permanent, then perhaps its time you tell her...
and if she still continues to double time you, then let her go...
if she feels the same way about you, she'll do the right thing

good luck!

chan5223 · #13 19-09-2011, 08:44 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by stillheart

i known a gal working in a pub in jb , we were together for 8months . I found out she out a boyfriend of 4yrs. but this bf only accompany her 2days a week.
i support her these 8 months , she seems to have many problem.i settle her gambling debts and many other probs. total amount is about 80k rm.

when i found out she got bf , i left her, she came crying and begged me to stay.
she say give her time to talk to the other guy.
she got no feelings for him already but the guy helped him alot.
the guy is like her hubby, he got keys to her hse.
whatever he ask her to do , she will do it. exp. when he ask her not to work she rest and accompany him. but if i ask her to rest and accompany me . she say cannot.

i trust her and didn't left her, i help her get but her pawn tix abt 4k , and settle some debts of 8k again.but i got myself another gf to spite her. she now treat me coldly , dun call me and dun want to meet.she left me waiting outside her door for 1.5hr. and she went supper with client.

i feel very cheated, so am i? i was thinking to tell her current bf what have she done.
you think i should ?

Hi bro,

Seriously get out of it and save yourself.
80k RM is equal to about 40k SIN (we divide by 2 for easy calculation).
This kind of money you can really do something good.
She got a bf but not worth it for you to contribute to her so much.
I hope you will have a clear direction after so many bros have replied here..
Good Luck!

RealEstateGuy · #14 21-09-2011, 03:17 PM

Braddah please study my illusion of love posts. You owe it to yourself. If you are too lazy to find them you cannot be helped because the onus is on you to help yourself and only you can shake this. Braddah you were scammed but nothing you can do but learn from it adnd shake it off.

sibaysong4u · #15 21-09-2011, 04:54 PM

Dun worri invest few hundred K more,maybe she will change her mind and leave her BF.