Relationship

[heartkorr]

Originally Posted by Freebap

Hey guys, you all really gave awesome replies.

Been talking to her few days ago. She said she was sorry in the end. For now, I would like to improve on what we are lacking, instead of just cancel everything immediately.

I guess it is really good to hear from experienced bros here.

Btw, is it normal to have 'withdrawal' symptoms when you move into a new house? e.g missing ur mum's cooking, freedom of being alone at home. I am afraid I will have all these 'withdrawal' symptoms though..

lol... i hope she keeps to her side of the deal... woman ar... one moment sorry.. when they get angry, they forget everything and go back to their old self

[youre]

Originally Posted by Ho-Lee

You are right bro. However is not easy for TS to call it quit . It takes to be hard hearted and needs lots of courage since he is at the marriage stage . We as an outsider has a clearer picture what future lies ahead for him . The rest is up to him , most guys will be soft hearted and jump into the grave eventually . Is better to be alone than be with a wrong partner .

Hahaha. Very funny.. Really is guys soft hearted and jump into the grave ah? Haha. How come I feel like women are also soft hearted and in the marriage and infant and childcare grave too. Haha. I think is not about the gender.. Is both parties need to understand how to be a good and lovely partner.. Anyway if ts really married her. And regrets it. Maybe next time he will be cheating on her like the other guys here? Then like that very bad liao.
Love takes hard work bah..

To ts. Yup. Work on your rs bah. Being used to somebody is a nice feeling. After the exciting love sparks tone down and you're getting old and wringkly , it's the nice warm homely familiarity that brings comfort.. If u and your gf willing to work things out den ok. if only 1 person den forget it. It will be so hard.

[hugs]

TS,
Nice to hear that you are getting married, you are moving out and you miss your mum's cooking? Have you talked with her about this issue in your relationship? The whole truth of how you feel deep down inside your heart? She probably knows the situation better than you think she knows. Anyway from 3rd party point of view, this looks bad. Woman usually takes a long time to agree on BTO. If she hasn't thoroughly sure about being with you for the rest of her life, she will say lets cancel this and come up with more complaints and quarrels. If you mean something, she will say sorry on her own. Not after you talks with her. Woman usually says sorry on their own. If you have to talk to her to hear it, oh no, these signs mean You Should Listen to the advices from bros here.

Originally Posted by Freebap

Hey guys, you all really gave awesome replies.

Been talking to her few days ago. She said she was sorry in the end. For now, I would like to improve on what we are lacking, instead of just cancel everything immediately.

I guess it is really good to hear from experienced bros here.

Btw, is it normal to have 'withdrawal' symptoms when you move into a new house? e.g missing ur mum's cooking, freedom of being alone at home. I am afraid I will have all these 'withdrawal' symptoms though..

[Intltuk]

Originally Posted by hugs

TS,
..................If you mean something, she will say sorry on her own. Not after you talks with her. Woman usually says sorry on their own. If you have to talk to her to hear it, oh no, these signs mean You Should Listen to the advices from bros here.

Nice caution sis.

TS, sis hugs has given u some food for thought from a woman's POV. Be sure of ur rs with ur wife to be....or u will end up regretting.

[melonmilk]

can see the ts is the type of guy who scared of women.

this kind of woman, u better watch out. now she threatens you by using bto.

next time, she threatens u by any means, cuz she knows you are weak.

if i were u, i wouldn't be in such a rush to downpayment a bto after knowing 3 yrs.

[Edyta]

Hi TS,
Before marriage should be the honeymoon time as both of u are not staying together yet n have not face stressful situation of pregnancy, kids, family setbacks etc. If u both are already "doing the talks", "trying to apologise n reconcile" I honestly cannot imagine how it would be like after marriage. By then would be living together,loans to pay, in laws to deal with etc. U might want to assess if u both are compatible? If u are far more mature in thinking, u would bear the burden of doing everything for the family n having her would feel like having a kid to look after than having a companion to go thru thick n thin in life. btw I am female n have been thru all these. just hope u make a sensible decision. bto can just let go, money can always earn back.

[urgg]

Originally Posted by melonmilk

can see the ts is the type of guy who scared of women.

this kind of woman, u better watch out. now she threatens you by using bto.

next time, she threatens u by any means, cuz she knows you are weak.

if i were u, i wouldn't be in such a rush to downpayment a bto after knowing 3 yrs.

Mr Melon, I differ to what you say regarding TS is scare of women.

Remember this, men is not scared of women.. men is clever enough not to invite trouble by agitating women.. another word, women is scary!

[hijav]

Originally Posted by urgg

Mr Melon, I differ to what you say regarding TS is scare of women.

Remember this, men is not scared of women

I also beg to differ because I personally have known of ex school mates, ex classmates as well as 2 uncles who are very afraid of their wives!

[urgg]

Originally Posted by hijav

I also beg to differ because I personally have known of ex school mates, ex classmates as well as 2 uncles who are very afraid of their wives!

Hi Mr Hi, sounds sad thou by using the word scare/afraid of wives.. care to elaborate? or maybe u can invite the 2 uncles to this forum and share their experience? it will be great!

[melonmilk]

Originally Posted by urgg

Mr Melon, I differ to what you say regarding TS is scare of women.

Remember this, men is not scared of women.. men is clever enough not to invite trouble by agitating women.. another word, women is scary!

the way ts describing his bto and fiance situation made him sound like he is kind of scare of the woman..

i felt that this kind of woman doesn't worth keeping. using bto as ultimatum. if i were ts, i would just kick her ass and return the rightful amount for bto back to her.

[urgg]

Originally Posted by Freebap

Hey guys, you all really gave awesome replies.

Been talking to her few days ago. She said she was sorry in the end. For now, I would like to improve on what we are lacking, instead of just cancel everything immediately.

I guess it is really good to hear from experienced bros here.

Btw, is it normal to have 'withdrawal' symptoms when you move into a new house? e.g missing ur mum's cooking, freedom of being alone at home. I am afraid I will have all these 'withdrawal' symptoms though..

My fren,u can still go back to your mum's place to have dinner unless ur wife to be stop you from going home

I can assure you things will be not the same anymore when u live together. Arguement will be more.. peace will be lesser.. im not trying to scare u.. but this is marriage life..

[urgg]

Originally Posted by melonmilk

the way ts describing his bto and fiance situation made him sound like he is kind of scare of the woman..

i felt that this kind of woman doesn't worth keeping. using bto as ultimatum. if i were ts, i would just kick her ass and return the rightful amount for bto back to her.

3 yrs of relationship say long not long.. but say short oso not short.. I look in a way that TS still care for his gf and worried about her well being if he is to break off with her. Alot of things to consider before breaking off with a ger whom u have somehow portray to ur family tat she is the wife to be..

[archer69]

Think while it's still early.
Why need to stay with such girl.
A lot of girls who can please you every time.