Relationship with an Ex Freelance

[BillyBonke]

Originally Posted by Annoymous

1) I can tell you are living comfortably and has this need and ability to provide security for others.

2) It's a bonus that "this other" also provides free F and some interest in you.

3) Do cont if you cont to feel comfortable financially. But i advise you not to commit too emotionally.

4) You should know that eventually she will find a BF, get married and move on. For all you know, she already has a bf now.

5) WARNING too. When she said one, do you 100% trust her? Even if it's one, the risk of sex diseases is already SUPER high. If you feel anything at all for your wife, or even children i advise you to stop doing this.

Currently we txt and video call each other regularly. She is different from other girls i know in this line. They usually carry designer handbags and stick to their phone. She does not use her phone while she is in school or going out with her friends and as far as i know. She does not carry a designer handbag at the moment.

Emotionally there is already a strong connection. Because of the age gap sometime i tend to have nothing to say except look at her and smile. She will automatically talk about her day and sometime tease me with showing her sexy body.

Well i am using ChatGPT as a Consultant regularly to keep myself sane. Because due to her not always looking at her phone. She sometime MIA for 6 to 7 hrs. But when we talk she usually tell me what she was doing. Usually thats check out with what she have told me her plan from the next day. Schooling, activities with friends, Gym, outing, shopping with friend.

Also when she does visit some place that is not previously planned. She will take photo and send me. Well i trust her that she is telling me the truth that she does not have another guy at the moment and if she does goes out dating or have feeling for anyone. She will tell me.

Culturally most thai girls are different from singaporean girls. Especially those that make it to university. She told me most girls that is not from rich family resort to working in massage spa or bar to make money. It is culturally accepted and nothing to be ashamed off. They are not robbing or doing anything evil. But she know i cannot accept sharing her with any other men. So she agreed no more other men even if she is horny. She will wait for me to visit her.

We have just began our journey together. Deep inside i hope it can last as long as possible. But i know its unfair to her to not be able give her any title. She said she is ok with it and i do not need to divorce my wife. She understand it will destroy my family.

My plan is to tell my wife eventually. Maybe after Gin graduate in 1 year time. Then my financial commitment to her have ended. I will let faith decide. Maybe she met someone. Maybe we ended up getting her pregnant. Maybe my wife found out and accepted the fact that she have to share me with Gin.

So far i am lucky to not have catch anything all these years of chonging except one episode of UTI which is cured already. I already schedule for my regular Sexual checkup this year and with me quiting chonging feelance forever. This will be the last one.

I find Gin is genuine to me. I know since she looks good and have a nice body, surely lots of classmate will want to get into her pants. This fact i cannot change or have the ability to prevent. I can only trust her to tell me with anyone express interest in her.

I also asked myself one question. If we are out at a bar in thailand. If i need to go to leave her alone for a moment and some guy get the opportunity to talk to her and try to get her contact details. What would she do. If she give does it mean anything?

[BillyBonke]

Originally Posted by Bigbluebird

You're a player all the way till your death bed, forever seeking thrill and eating outside, with the assurance of stability at home as long as you are not caught.

What do you seek from us? Compassion? Understanding? Assurance from us fellow Samsters?

For telling my story here. I hope any bro here with same experience to be able to share some insight.

I know everyone is build different. I have been eating outside for ~20 years. Even my wife think i am a decent men who does not fool around. So never judge a person by its cover.

I have seen men who have mistress and the wife accepted it and live in harmony. This guys usually have mistress that can help them in work and the wife is home maker. I do hope my situation will develop into this type.

[BillyBonke]

Originally Posted by corsiar74

I had a similar experience with my FWB too, she's a Thai with a baby girl at 4 yo.

Got to know her from TF and had been visited her for twice. I do give her some money during meet up, she's NOT a FL and she's working in a restaurant.

She also let me RAW her during our 2nd day sex, first day was with condom.

This is what she wrote to me:
I have emergency contraception and I protect myself well. I have never let anyone cum inside me that is not my boyfriend. You are the first.

Read it with a pinch of salt.

Understood and thanks for the sharing. Yes i understand i cannot trust Gin fully yet. Not until i get to know her better and visit her more often.

On the issue of RAW with her. She did say initially she is angry with me for doing it RAW with her. Its a bit of passion and moment that happen and it just went in. She is an Ang Pai and her service is on the high premium side. But for the RAW she does not charge me a single cent. On my subsequent visit. I round up the figure and ask her to keep the balance and not let her boss know.

[BillyBonke]

Originally Posted by titan

actually what's the point of having her as a mistress? money too much? talk to your wife about the separating rooms, your daughter is teenager now and needs her freedom. tell her that u need her more than the kids

My wife like to hug me for a while when i am sleeping alone on my bed. She sometime play with my dick until its hard and then i try to touch her boobs. She will fight me and not let me touch them. Then she will quickly leave the bed.

I do not have much interest in having sex with her now. I do not care how long its been since the last time. Now even if i do it. It feel like just a duty to satisfy her. Not love anymore. She also does not allow cum inside. So every time need condom.

I do believe the fact that our inner subconscious affect our decision in life. My parent also sleep in separate room since i was a teenager. They are not in good terms but they never divorce for the good of the family.

Some people fall into this cycle where they mirror their parent. Some lucky one manage to break the trend and develop their own. I somewhat followed parents development.

[BillyBonke]

She looks something like this except.

Face is sweeter
Body a bit more meaty
No Tattoo.
No implant.


She shared with me her childhood photo. 4 years ago she look so nerdy, skinny and not much boobs. I can't believe so much body change in 4 years. She is a sexy bomb now.

[bignehneh]

Originally Posted by BillyBonke

She looks something like this except.

Face is sweeter
Body a bit more meaty
No Tattoo.
No implant.


She shared with me her childhood photo. 4 years ago she look so nerdy, skinny and not much boobs. I can't believe so much body change in 4 years. She is a sexy bomb now.

Go for breast surgery?

[BillyBonke]

Originally Posted by bignehneh

Go for breast surgery?

Her's is natural D cup. Photo is obviously an implant because from the round definition at the top of the breast.

I will try to find a photo closer to her look and figure and post again. Meanwhile things are still developing.

Anyone of the bro who have previous experience with relationship with ex freelance can share her and give some guidance. I do believe not all freelance are bad. There are good one out there.

[titan]

Originally Posted by BillyBonke

My wife like to hug me for a while when i am sleeping alone on my bed. She sometime play with my dick until its hard and then i try to touch her boobs. She will fight me and not let me touch them. Then she will quickly leave the bed.

I do not have much interest in having sex with her now. I do not care how long its been since the last time. Now even if i do it. It feel like just a duty to satisfy her. Not love anymore. She also does not allow cum inside. So every time need condom.

I do believe the fact that our inner subconscious affect our decision in life. My parent also sleep in separate room since i was a teenager. They are not in good terms but they never divorce for the good of the family.

Some people fall into this cycle where they mirror their parent. Some lucky one manage to break the trend and develop their own. I somewhat followed parents development.

while its a 'family tradition', every household got its unique value preposition/s. The love that blossomed then has risen to a pure family functional thingy. to each's own, i guess

[Bigbluebird]

Originally Posted by BillyBonke

My wife like to hug me for a while when i am sleeping alone on my bed. She sometime play with my dick until its hard and then i try to touch her boobs. She will fight me and not let me touch them. Then she will quickly leave the bed.

Damn that's nasty

Tease you and let you be

Have you exhausted all means and ways to reconcile with your wife to share the same bed and have the intimacy?

Your situation kind of sucks entirely.

[BillyBonke]

Originally Posted by Bigbluebird

Damn that's nasty

Tease you and let you be

Have you exhausted all means and ways to reconcile with your wife to share the same bed and have the intimacy?

Your situation kind of sucks entirely.

For me i am not that interested in sex with my wife now. In fact i try to avoid getting intimate with her now.

For now i can wait and see how things develop. I do not mind moving to thailand to stay long term and work remotely from there and come back to singapore to do some work if needed. So far my employee are able to carry out most of our work without much input from me.

[ultrabot]

Well i think my wife is not the forgiving kind.

[Vermeer]

It appears the ex fl is not being committal at this point, not that there is anything for either party to commit to.
She states that she is your mistress, not lover(another form of commitment)
Thus, just take it as it comes but not commit to the extent that irrevocable damage is done with nothing in return.

[BillyBonke]

Originally Posted by Vermeer

It appears the ex fl is not being committal at this point, not that there is anything for either party to commit to.
She states that she is your mistress, not lover(another form of commitment)
Thus, just take it as it comes but not commit to the extent that irrevocable damage is done with nothing in return.

I did ask her what kind of status she is to me. She also do not know as she also knew me divorcing my wife will means a lot of chaotic change to my life. So we settled on mistress for now. She is not materialistic type as she does not go for designer handbag. She even ask me not to waste money. She love taking photo of herself and make herself more beautiful and slim body. She just crave self confidence.

Anyway its a waste that i am not younger and single. And if i would have meet her 1 year earlier. Things would have turn out to be a wonder relationship

[blackwidowp]

First and foremost,

[BillyBonke]

Originally Posted by blackwidowp

First and foremost,

What do you mean?