Need advice, married but under SEX...

[prccuntlover]

Wife having affair? - Thanks for the concern, I trust 100% my wife doesn't have an affair or fling. Not like her,
A lot of pple behave normally on the outside

especially she now look like Chen LiPing . Last times many suitor (some drive big cars),
Some guys go for all kinds ESP free ones...

She even intro me to them to get them off her back.
That was then ma...

Most of the time, she at home. watch Drama, do housework, typical stay at home house wife.
That's what you think?

Every 2 days She will go for her evening run.
Run where? 5 mins will do hor

She works office hours, and will be home after work and stay home.
Office hrs also have lunch brak tea break?

Unless she fling at during office hrs.
You said it

Weekend, She will do more housework and play with kids. then we go out to different places to eat. We still talk, joke, suan, argue with each other.
Keeping up appearance?

If she really got a fling, where to find time?
as above

GoYa - Yes, I am the head of the family, I do strategic decision at home. But I cannot tell her: "Take off your cloth, I wana make love now". Doesn't work that way.
Maybe she just waiting for you?

Anyway, I am not going out for a full FJ, I can live without FJ. I just wanna know how the fuck a BJ feels like Maybe pussy licking, I am a person who like to see ladies enjoy
No matter still hanky panky, oral sex, finger sex is still sex?
Still think ok, why not tell your wife then and see if she is ok with it...

(unlike some of my pals, who only wants to please themselves only)
To each his own lah

My 2 cents worth

[ofallwhyme]

unleash the dragon in you.....

[MrGreen]

Tot this thread ended 1yr 3mth. I have some adventures with my friends and some lone visits...

no worries, I am Not addicted as I am a stingy farker. My pay only $10/hrs. 1 visit is 2+ days salary, I cannot keep up with this kind of adventure. so unless the fire burning in my underpants is spreading to other parts of the body then I will go adventure...

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by MrGreen

Tot this thread ended 1yr 3mth. I have some adventures with my friends and some lone visits...

no worries, I am Not addicted as I am a stingy farker. My pay only $10/hrs. 1 visit is 2+ days salary, I cannot keep up with this kind of adventure. so unless the fire burning in my underpants is spreading to other parts of the body then I will go adventure...

Bra, good for you, that's the way! Never mind those saying you're just finding excuses. As far as your narration read to me, sound very legit to me that you pay for sex. That's the reason why this is the oldest occupation in the world and even our garmen legalize it here - all in the name of keeping family together (irony as it may sound).

There you have got yourself a great limiting risk factor to the side effects of such ECA - your income

Take this opportunity to refrain from sex with your wife every 6 months (before going for HIV test) and see if she ever question you... then see how. Don't ever tell her the truth though, no matter what!!! Even if she 100% sure you eat outside, still deny it - this is the only thing a cheongster with family must keep even if caught red-handed.

So Enjoy!

[Greatking]

I don't understand that if a woman felt love, what is it that is holding her back then?

[goodpartner]

Originally Posted by Greatking

I don't understand that if a woman felt love, what is it that is holding her back then?

In general, nothing should be holding her back.

For THIS case, I think it's more an exception than the norm.

So we can debate here all day in the "general sense" OR accept that the world is not black-n-white, where this one happens to fall in the far end of the spectrum of possibilities.

[avantas]

Originally Posted by MrGreen

Glad to have get this off my chest... feeling much better to talk about it freely than to cramp inside. Now I know I am not alone facing this issue.

Wife having affair? - Thanks for the concern, I trust 100% my wife doesn't have an affair or fling. Not like her, especially she now look like Chen LiPing . Last times many suitor (some drive big cars), She even intro me to them to get them off her back. Most of the time, she at home. watch Drama, do housework, typical stay at home house wife. Every 2 days She will go for her evening run. She works office hours, and will be home after work and stay home. Unless she fling at during office hrs. Weekend, She will do more housework and play with kids. then we go out to different places to eat. We still talk, joke, suan, argue with each other. If she really got a fling, where to find time?

Counselling - Never try. but likely she will say she have no problem. It's her choice not DO IT!

cinos74 - She has never change or walk naked or pose sexy infront or me. NEVER. She wear her Ts and shorts walk around, I already steam liao (last time, now not as steam as she gain much Kg) Used to grab her Breast from behind and push my didi to her tight butt.

GoYa - Yes, I am the head of the family, I do strategic decision at home. But I cannot tell her: "Take off your cloth, I wana make love now". Doesn't work that way.

Anyway, I am not going out for a full FJ, I can live without FJ. I just wanna know how the fuck a BJ feels like Maybe pussy licking, I am a person who like to see ladies enjoy (unlike some of my pals, who only wants to please themselves only)

I go WanYang for massage occassionally. So maybe should Ladies try TN or Massage with JG service (since it is also a form of massage). The health centre section has got some good lobang. Might just give it a try...

Hi TS

Stories like yours are damn common. Everytime I meet up with my guy friends and chat about this, we will definitely hear some new stories about guys going ktv to get some GFE or going further for FJs.

Even guys with exceptionally good looking wives are known to go for some live firing entertainment as well. The problem is with our women and their concept of marriage.

Most SINGAPOREAN-TISED women dont marry for love, especially if they have a lot of suitors. They marry becos it is a status symbol that proves their market demand. Yes, it is a pride issue.

"If you are women worth anything, you should be able to get a men of good status to marry that will treat you like a princess"

Your marriage is probably a combination of your commitment, your status and wealth and the failure of others to meet her expectations (such as family requirements, knowledge and appreciation of her character and etc).

You would probably notice by now, that I seem to miss out the key words of "love" and "affection". A modern Singaporean woman cannot differentiate loving someone and the desire for a compatible partner.

I'm not saying your wife doesnt love you, but I am saying she doesnt love you enough to bother understanding if you desire more out of the relationship.

She has gotten the married life she wanted and she probably believes she has done a lot for it. Further more, she has wrapped you around her finger way before the marriage and she is now protected by the Woman's charter if anything goes wrong.

Basically your current predicament is something created by you. THE BIGGEST JOKE is that you are a responsible husband and was a committed boyfriend. If you are a jerk or at least an individual that is highly mobile with just as many choices, you would probably have a better life.

Cos your wife KNOWS for certain, no matter how hard you fool around, your wallet and focus is with the family.

Don't bother with all those counseling and stuff, cos you are pussy-whipped. If you handle it badly, it may even end up with a divorce. Why I say so? Cos you have spoken to her about it. About her looks, about you going to GL, about your sex life being unhealthy and etc. She is perfectly certain she dont need to do anything about it.

To know if you should just go for FLs and remain a faithful husband, just do this simple test. Introduce or make known to your wife a young, pretty female colleague or friend that you have been hanging out with lately. If there is still no reaction from her, no complaints, no advice, no questions then you know you are with a dead fish. Just go FLs and be happy with seeing your kids grow up. If she has some response, you can start going out on the road of recovery, by HANGING out with girl MORE.

If you dont have such a girl on hand. Then the first thing to do is to find one LOLZ.

[orneryjoe]

It may not be a Singaporean thing for women to be less interested in sex after they have children. Probably a human thing.

To be fair, many women work, take charge of the house, take care of the children... in short, they are so busy they have little energy left to think of sex.

It's true too that humans are non-monogamous and humans are always looking for sexual variety.

The result is a male sexual deficit -- especially those above thirty. Sex workers actually makes up for this deficit quite nicely.

One life to live -- so may as well play; but play safely -- condoms are man's best friends.

[Maxdom]

You very poor thing. Once you mentioned Chen Li Ping, that is good enuf reason among all the other more serious issues.

Your case din jus happen after u married for a couple of years or after both of you had children. It already happened even before you got married. Restricted only holding hands and light kissing during BF/GF days and think oral sex is exclusive for animals only was already a bad sign. I really don't know any animals that can perform Oral Sex on each other like we do unless she thinks a newborn cow sucking milk from the mother is oral sex. There are many nice, friendly and non aggressive animals who also enjoy Sex.

I am sure she is a good person. You have done all you can waiting for miracles to happen while she transform herself to become ChenLiPing lookalike. Not really her fault of course, neither is yours. It just happened that way. You have already decided. So coming to a sex forum to seek support again is the right thing to do. Most of us don't even need a reason to seek pleasure elsewhere, much less your situation.

Don't bother trying to talk sense, show her research report, seek counseling.. Just too much work and you only set yourself up for more disappointment. This is one of those things that is absolutely will not make any difference. It is too late for her. If miracles does happen later and you don't mind bonking a 60 year old ChenLiPing lookalike who still won't blow you like an animal and oblige just to entertain you, by all means as long you are happy. Provided you have no ED problem later.

So you see, just fucking go for it which i think you already did. Good luck!

[corranhorny]

I was once like you. The only difference is before we got married my wife was like a wild cat in bed. My wife rarely wears make up. She only does it on special occasion but I like her face as it is. After 11 yrs we had 4 kids and since then she kinda lost interest in sex. She attributed it to her weight gain. She gained 40kg after having our 4 kids but I didn't mind a single bit. I love my wife alot but she was always rejecting sex. What used to be a daily affair became a once a week affair. Besides, she always giving more attention to her family than me. Eventually, I got very frustrated and one weekend while she was away overseas with her family and our kids, I engaged an FL for a session. Although it was thrilling I felt very guilty abt it. I had always pride on being faithful and here I was bonking someone else. Later on, things improved for us before we went on a trip without the kids but shortly after we came bak, she started losing interest again. Sex was once a fortnight. Without her knowledge, I engaged another FL for a longer session twice. 9 mths after I started my FL adventure, my wife chanced upon my msn conversation with the FL. We almost got divorced. She lost weight due to depression. Then as if waking up from a bad dream, she started wearing make up everyday. Her guy colleagues suddenly got interested in her. It made me jealous of course seeing how guys are responding to her change. Lucky for me, my wife is one woman who will never RTF when someone did sometg bad to her. I was a terrible husband, and yes I am a one woman guy now. Now much slimmer than before, my wife suddenly became a desirable woman. She does not reject me anymore now. I guess it was knowing that it was also partly her fault I strayed. I hope u won't want to end up like me. My wife still doesn't trust me and she has already made it clear that she will never forgive me again if I cheated on her again.

[orneryjoe]

What isn't rational is possessiveness in most relationships. Often the couple after being married for several years aren't even having sex except for the odd occasion. And yet one, or both, will insist they stay faithful to one another. Whatever for?

What more people need to come to terms with is the idea that a marriage is sustained by more than sex alone. One could be a good spouse, a good parent and still find sexual fulfillment elsewhere.