serious help here

[kwaychup]

Originally Posted by texas5star

After all, it is always unfair to girls. When will you hear single dad instead of single mum? lol.. It is always the guys fault but everyone should deserve a second chance.

i beg to defer;
Actually TS there are alot of cases which the girl wanted the kid,
also they wanted custody of the child when whatever things happened.
but in sillypore, if such cases do occur, high chances that the court will also award custody to the mother as well.
thats why you hear alot of single mum stories.

she may see you as a life buoy ,but if you truly love her. why not try it out and see.
but let me ask you this, can you love this child as if the child is your own?

my 2 cents

[etct88]

Originally Posted by Ichigo_Kurosaki

sammyboyfor aka forum master, ......... Yes, this forum has a worldwide audience and I'm pretty sure you do not want to be the simon cowell to the rest of the english speaking world too or are you trying to be simon cowell forum idol style?

Not trying to help or advice you in anyway, I'm just here to enjoy your forum and wanting to be a samster to help another samster, that's include you (of course, you don't need it).

Should be ".......advise you....".

"Advixe" is a xxxxxxxx.

...... getting really tired of correcting the same mistakes over and over and over again.............

hee hee hee.......

[texas5star]

in fact i think i am not a life boey.. her earning are almost 2x mine.. dunno... maybe i see more opinion from bros here as well as give myself a little deep thought before i come out with an ans for this

[raibo]

TS,

I believe you still have some feeling for her after these years. Since she is the one who ask you the question, I think you can try to be with her.

Of course, don't put 100% into this relationship.

After a while, see how things turn out,

If she really wanted to be with you, is a happy one.
If she is just trying to find a shelter or a parnter who can take can of the kid, while she can go out have fun. Then of course, leave her.

Now you have the deciding power to what will this relationship lead to, all is up to u..

[texas5star]

i think great men think alike.. that is i think the best choice but got to warn her before hand that no guarentee on outcome

Originally Posted by raibo

TS,

I believe you still have some feeling for her after these years. Since she is the one who ask you the question, I think you can try to be with her.

Of course, don't put 100% into this relationship.

After a while, see how things turn out,

If she really wanted to be with you, is a happy one.
If she is just trying to find a shelter or a parnter who can take can of the kid, while she can go out have fun. Then of course, leave her.

Now you have the deciding power to what will this relationship lead to, all is up to u..

[keano]

Originally Posted by tuxedosam

perhaps all interpersonal relationships are best defined at the most basic level by the way they measure on the utilitarian scale...but of course, definitions of 'usefulness' vary from person to person and situation to situation. is it truly that dreadful to be useful for once? or to find some 'use' for someone else in return? as long as there is some mutually acceptable level of utility present, whether in terms of material and/or sentimental gratification or perhaps something else altogether, who is to say whether a relationship is necessarily on a 'right' or 'wrong' trajectory? well, it's probably true that feelings and people change. but it's also equally plausible that there are some ideals that can withstand the test of time. seriously though...can one realistically disentangle all this convoluted and intertwined currents from one another objectively, to begin with? if you think you don't mind being 'played' while being a 'player', by all means, go ahead. some people actually get a fix from playing all those twisted mindfuck games of will and power. but if you're the naïve and straight-forward sort, better desist. at the very least, if you're not the dance with danger type and dun wish to entertain the chance or risk that your heart and life might be shredded into tiny, unrecognisable pieces, then dun. it's all a question of individual motives and notions of appetite and payback. life is complicated. but you can choose a simpler path if you so desire.

i like this

[Medusa]

there will be a time when women reach the stage of getting tired by all those stuffs and eventually she would want to settle down...thus she started to think back on all her past...who is good to her etc kinda things...and it just happen that you are still around, still in contact with her...lets not deny the fact that humans always regret when they lose certain things...lets not just condemn her because she rejected you before...everybody deserves a second chance...

every human grows as they aged...every human learn when they failed...its normal that every man yearns to be loved...lets not be superficial and just look at the surface...it does takes alot of courange for a single mum to start looking for love again...having to consider alot of things like whether the man can accept her and her baggage etc...

TS, check out on your own feeling...be neutral...ask yourself do you still hate her for rejecting you and choose your friend instead, are you willing to erase the past and accept her for who she is...are you willing to walk with her and face the challenge ahead...like what bloopz had mention...everybody had a past...before you start saying or telling people how at fault or wrong she is...have you sit down and think about yours? i would say that...if you still bear grudges of what she did in your heart....it will be better to let her go...keeping a thorn in your fresh will only create more problem in future...

i always believe in what is meant to happen will happen...its all fixed...have a heart to heart talk with her if you wanna clear your doubts...instead of coming over to the forum and ask for people opinions...we are all bystanders...we dunno what is exactly happening and its not fair to just judge her based on a few lines...you should know her better then all of us...

be fair to both of you...seek out the answer by yourself...talk to her...if after the conversation and you realise she is true...go for it...if not...just tell her frankly you would still prefer to be just friends...

all the best to you~

[uncle gg]

imo, you should explain to her that you would, and will regard her as a friend only . forms of alms or financial aids will be consider as loans.(must return!)

好马不吃回头草

[peanut123]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

Unfortunately, I am ultimately responsible for what appears here. It would therefore be appreciated if some effort was made to write good English. This forum has a worldwide audience and I'm pretty sure the country does not want to be the laughing stock of the rest of the English speaking world.

Well, considering that 90% of the posts in this forum are written in broken English and Singlish, I think the fundamental problem is more than just "Advice vs Advise".

And... no matter how many times you post your "Advise is a verb" message, it will not catch on, because people who make such mistakes in the first place aren't really interested in writing/speaking good English.

My 2 cents

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by peanut123

Well, considering that 90% of the posts in this forum are written in broken English and Singlish, I think the fundamental problem is more than just "Advice vs Advise".

Anything can be fixed if the issue is tackled one step at a time. I have decided to concentrate on just ONE aspect of the problem. I leave it to the others here take up the challenge of fixing the other common grammatical/spelling "sins" that Singaporeans commit on a regular basis.

Examples "Agreed" instead of "I agree".

"Wedsite" instead of "website". (This is what happens when spelling is not linked to knowledge of phonetics.)

"Sign" instead of "Sigh".

etc etc.....

[warbird]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

If everyone followed my advice, 90% of the problems posted in this section would be solved within a week.

Every whore monger should tattoo this on their foreheads.. "Whores are for fucking... not loving!".

My Esteemed Bro Sammy,

Very good advice, hehehe.

I dun always agree w/ u bcos u r often biased. But isn't everyone in every country biased? It's in part due to the mysterious Rashomon effect. I do admire ur candor n ur command of English though.

Yes, whores r for fucking. But loving them doesn't mean I'm falling in love w/ them, hehehe.

Have a great day!!

[OKtkiller]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

Anything can be fixed if the issue is tackled one step at a time. I have decided to concentrate on just ONE aspect of the problem. I leave it to the others here take up the challenge of fixing the other common grammatical/spelling "sins" that Singaporeans commit on a regular basis.

Examples "Agreed" instead of "I agree".

"Wedsite" instead of "website". (This is what happens when spelling is not linked to knowledge of phonetics.)

"Sign" instead of "Sigh".

etc etc.....

u r just tackling singaporean la...i remember u said we r a fucking country rite

[Cheonging101]

Originally Posted by OKtkiller

u r just tackling singaporean la...i remember u said we r a fucking country rite

Well, he's not wrong techincally. We ARE a fucking country.

At least, that's how this forum implies. Someone's fucking someone, someone's hoping to fuck someone and someone's fucked by someone physically, mentally and/or financially.

Actually, I think this applies to everywhere then.

Boss sam is not a Singaporean so I guess it probably irks those of us here who are. I ain't one of them since I consider myself one of those who are born in the wrong geographical location. I'm not disloyal, I just find it stupid to be loyal to a cause you are BORN into. It's like being born a Muslim but growing up with an insatiable appetite for alcohol and pork.

I'm more irate that he thinks that we are all above the whores, when a lot of us are no better and would not think twice in selling out things more precious to us than our own bodies, than his obsessive-compulsive need to correct every single grammatical error he could find.

But hey, it's not like he's going anywhere till he sells this forum to another guy. Why did he buy it in the first place from the real Sam Leong? Only God knows why. Strange to have a voluntary participating hand in something that one hates.

Anyway, to the "International Audience" out there, here's one from a displaced foreigner born into Singapore against his wishes... Nin na bei chao chee bye! Ai kua lu kua! Mai kua lu hong gan! Bei song hor ka ki lao pei lao bu gan kar chng, lar lam par! Gong a nee joi lan jiao wei an jua?Wu tang gan chio bu si bo? Wu looi ho tan si bo?

There, boss sam, I've soothed the possible angst that your "International Audience" might have with us by explaining in the most civil manner possible in one of our most commonly used southern-Chinese dialect.

The next time you get any complaints from them, do ask them how many languages are they proficient in... although I do hate the senseless butchery of any languages, I just don't see the need to teach those who do not wish to learn or cannot learn because of a weak foundation. We are all capable in one field or the other. When your kitchen sink leaks, try engaging an English teacher to fix the pipes and you'll know the difference.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by Cheonging101

I'm more irate that he thinks that we are all above the whores, when a lot of us are no better and would not think twice in selling out things more precious to us than our own bodies, than his obsessive-compulsive need to correct every single grammatical error he could find.

The only grammatical error I bother with is the erroneous use of "advice" and "advise". I let the rest pass.

[Dahu]

Originally Posted by Cheonging101

Well, he's not wrong techincally. We ARE a fucking country.

At least, that's how this forum implies. Someone's fucking someone, someone's hoping to fuck someone and someone's fucked by someone physically, mentally and/or financially.

Actually, I think this applies to everywhere then.

Boss sam is not a Singaporean so I guess it probably irks those of us here who are. I ain't one of them since I consider myself one of those who are born in the wrong geographical location. I'm not disloyal, I just find it stupid to be loyal to a cause you are BORN into. It's like being born a Muslim but growing up with an insatiable appetite for alcohol and pork.

I'm more irate that he thinks that we are all above the whores, when a lot of us are no better and would not think twice in selling out things more precious to us than our own bodies, than his obsessive-compulsive need to correct every single grammatical error he could find.

But hey, it's not like he's going anywhere till he sells this forum to another guy. Why did he buy it in the first place from the real Sam Leong? Only God knows why. Strange to have a voluntary participating hand in something that one hates.

Anyway, to the "International Audience" out there, here's one from a displaced foreigner born into Singapore against his wishes... Nin na bei chao chee bye! Ai kua lu kua! Mai kua lu hong gan! Bei song hor ka ki lao pei lao bu gan kar chng, lar lam par! Gong a nee joi lan jiao wei an jua?Wu tang gan chio bu si bo? Wu looi ho tan si bo?

There, boss sam, I've soothed the possible angst that your "International Audience" might have with us by explaining in the most civil manner possible in one of our most commonly used southern-Chinese dialect.

The next time you get any complaints from them, do ask them how many languages are they proficient in... although I do hate the senseless butchery of any languages, I just don't see the need to teach those who do not wish to learn or cannot learn because of a weak foundation. We are all capable in one field or the other. When your kitchen sink leaks, try engaging an English teacher to fix the pipes and you'll know the difference.

You sound like a bayi friend I know.