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Matters of the Heart. Has a Commercial Fuck turned into a torrid Love Affair which has turned your life upside down? Fear not. We have experts here who can help you through your roller coaster ride. Tell us your story and we'll do our best to help. |
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Re: I rejected him although I have feelings for him
He's not that into you is the explanation. I suggest you read the book. A lot of times i might do what the guy did for you out of sympathy. Want to give you a good feeling and afraid to hurt yours but just not that into you. It's up to you to change that feeling. Sex is one option but doesnt necesarrily mean it will work long term. It could turn into a sympathy action on his part too so be forwarned that he may sleep with you not intentionally but out of sympathy and not wanting to say no so as to hurt your ego. If a guy is into a gal he will go all out. Just look at some of the men on this board spending their entire paycheck on KTV gals, wooing them with handphones, flowers, LV, Gucci, Givenchi, Lexus, BMW, Mercedes, escargo, diamonds, gold, cash alllowances, air tickets, holidays, subsidy of the gal's family expenses, subsiddy of the gal's real BF's expenses, starting busineses for her entourage, taking out loans, borrowing from friends, maxing out credit cards, etc. and even stealing to finance the gals lifestyle. Of course they are morons but I use them as a real life illustraton that when a man wants a gal he goes all out. Your best course of action is to move on and find a guy who IS into you.
SG soceity is largely a polite society and people will act nice to be kind you have to understand. |
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xiao meimei,, i use 2 play e hot n cold game wif young gals like u in e pass wen i was married,,. so,, he is MARRIED,!! stay away fr him,!!!
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yeh most likely he's married. he only calls you when he's bored or wife not around. treating you as a part time fling. Even if he's not married from the looks of it you are not his priority.
Get to know more friends, take up courses, go shopping, engage in projects or charity organization to fill up your time. Use your Wisdom to choose your Mr. right. Gd luck |
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Re: I rejected him although I have feelings for him
maybe after he touch you.... he realised you are not his prey type... consider yourself lucky...
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Hi bros,
Some people will never learn till they get hurt. My humble two cents.
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If men were cure for loneliness, women would never have had to commit adultery. In matters such as relationship, nobody has the authority to pontificate on what is true or what is a generalization. We all strive to be persuasive in our arguments, and before we get there we should refrain from pontification. You will gain your authority when you're persuasive; you don't become persuasive just because you appear to be authoritative. |
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you barely know the man and you want him to suddenly say he love you ? you barely know the man and you reject him and he dont contact you and you are surprised??? wah lau eh can you please go and read your schoolbooks if you dont study you will fail your exams |
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bro Hamsapkwai, you have to post something and pm me so i can up you back.
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Mei Mei,
You get all the good advice from brothers here especially Brother Goodpartner. I kind of agree with his views... In my opinion, this guy is either playing hard to get and cool or you're just over reacting. Better be careful. |
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If he is busy, then be busier, get involved in more activities and dating. If he wants to play games, the next time he message you, don't respond for a few days or let him know you are in fact dating another guy, create some competition and turn the tables. Or you want to play more fierce, you say you already had a boyfriend when he try some "i miss you" thing, but you not sure whether he suitable for you. When he want to meet you, give him " i not free". You can choose to reschedule it or break the date. He go nuts after that if you keep your game tight! ![]() |
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I know you in lots of emotional pain right now. Let me break it down for you based on what you mention above. 1 . he never confessed loving me.. he used "like" 2. he's always busy.. he never purposely travel to meet me.. unless it's work related... 3. he said he cares for me.. but there was no phone call .... only sms Point 1 This point overlaps the explanation i have for point 2 and 3. Yes, during the courting stage, i will tell her i like her. When we hold hands and become closer, i will start to tell her i love her. From my experience, It is progressive. But that is just my experience. Other bros can provide you with other perspectives. I guess there are also some cases where some alpha male hate to express to the girl he love her. Judging from your description of the guy (age and actions), i guess he doesn't belong to the alpha male category because he is quite wishy washy for a guy. Point 2 and Point 3When a guy is in love with a girl, he will definitely try ways and means to grab every opportunity he got to sms, call, get close to you etc. If he only travel to meet you because of work related issues, something is definitely wrong here. It just seems like he isn't serious about you. To verify, You can ask any of the experience bros here, i believe they will support my explanation. * Just to add on, no matter how busy i am everyday,during the days when i am attached, i will drop at least one sms to my loved one to keep in touch with her. If the guy doesn't even sms u or call u everyday, meeting you once in awhile, i guess it is not worth it to waste your emotional well being on him. Try to widen your circle of guy friends and don't get too emotionally involved so early. Get to know them better. Many guys will do alot of things to move your heart so just be careful. I am not sure what is your age but i suppose you are quite young. Time is on your side, no need to rush things. I believe you will find someone you like and that someone will treasure you. Study hard because this society is cruel. Having no qualifications means getting a screw up job and you get trample all over the place by your superiors. Once you can learn to take care and love yourself (financially or emotionally, improving yourself and reading widely), the relationship will come naturally without you working too hard. Hope the above perspective can help you in a way. ![]() |
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I had a gf who has the same encounter as u.. Same, she feels confused at that time, v lost, v sad n don't know wat to do. n we start 2 analyse.. He is a old time player in the love fields..he know hw n when 2 capture a woman's feeling. Basically he just toy.. he is married.. He let my friend feel hw much he care n love my fren.. N end up is all cheating.. Move on gal.. theres nothing much 2 look back, but theres something for you 2 look forward...
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that fellow most likely married, just sending some flirt msg when feeling horny.
could be a samster here somemore. ![]() |
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Re: I rejected him although I have feelings for him
Although you may have said that you love him and miss him, it seems that you have chosen to cut ties with him.
It also depends what you are looking for. Unless you are willing to risk a relationship with a player or be in a relationship with minimal commitment, I suggest you move on. Best option seems to move on. I assume you are still young. This means you still have a lot of choices ahead of you. |
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