Advise needed - Page 2

meisawai · #16 09-03-2010, 06:37 PM

Hi bros,

It's been a while that I have last posted, so let me update all the bros here on my r/s with my childhood sweet heart..

Have been trying to distance myself from her ever since.. but in strange circumstances our r/s took a step forward.. I constantly remind myself and to her that I am married and that she deserve someone that will cherish her more than I can give... she said it's ok and so on..

I really wanted to treat her as a friend cos i sincerely care about her well being and I dun want to fcuk up my family.

So, I humbly seek the wisdoms of the bros here once again and hopefully it will be a win win situation. Thanks in advance.

Jurist · #17 10-03-2010, 10:59 AM

Don't bonk her. If you have to then do it once and keep a distance away.

tryherout · #18 10-03-2010, 11:09 AM

Ask yourself how hard have you try to keep away from her...? Change your mobile number? If not, the roadmap is clear.

Flesh · #19 10-03-2010, 11:26 AM

Your's is a common dilemma....

The obvious advice is to stay away- its all water under the bridge, don't shit in your own backyard etc etc. Of course that's easier said than done. We are all human (of course some are Tigers, others are Neos...haha)

But since you are posting in this forum, there are some who would say that life is short, that you should live for the moment and go with what feels good. No wrong, no right- just do it. But go in with your eyes opens and lay the ground rules early.

Not sure if this helps. Life is shades of grey. Good luck in deciding.

Bangster · #20 10-03-2010, 01:58 PM

I think best is ask her to go hotel with you 1 night.

Then when you are both inside, tell her that you are having second thoughts about this as you are married and blah blah blah....

If she really wants you, tell her you feel the same but you have your reservations...

If she really doesn't care, then you tan-tio.

Next time if shit happens, at least you can push the blame to her.

Make sure you leave the voice recorder in your mobile phone on.

yangguo · #21 10-03-2010, 03:37 PM

Bro TS, I think Jack Neo can give you the best advice!

Elysian · #22 10-03-2010, 04:44 PM

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Originally Posted by meisawai

So, I humbly seek the wisdoms of the bros here once again and hopefully it will be a win win situation.

Your win win means you want your cake and eat it too ?

That sums it up if that is what you mean.

meisawai · #23 10-03-2010, 05:01 PM

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Originally Posted by yangguo

Bro TS, I think Jack Neo can give you the best advice!

Ha ha ..

Tks bro.. Ah Neo's episode really made me think things through.. my OC " will not " be so forgiving..

toitoi · #24 11-03-2010, 12:09 AM

well , i suggest that he talk to her heart to heart if you really want to bonk her and see how she respond to it , if she mind try to change the topic or just tell you " is a casual remarks " and if she dun mind , ask her to be your FB but you must remind her that both of you cant cross the line as you are married . MOST IMPORTANT , ALWAU HAVE THE BALLS IN YOUR GAME AND NOT THE OTHER WAY AS YOU ARE MARRIED .

hope its help bro .

meisawai · #25 11-03-2010, 11:22 AM

Bros..

Thank you all for the inputs ..

I have made up my mind and remain faithful to my OC .. not suitable to play the game..

Hope that the bros here will continue to give valuable advice to all the newbies..

Cheers..

yang punk · #26 11-03-2010, 01:22 PM

TS

I think you are waiting for people here to say go ahead and bonk her since she is game! That would ease your conscience considerably.

The fact is the future is unpredictable. The situation can go both ways...you bonk her and both of you are happy. She continues to be discreet and undemanding and your marriage goes on.

OR

She becomes possessive and sticky and pester you to leave your family for her failing which she will mess up your life. Enough of news on such matters to enlighten you on what a woman scorn can do!

Its your decision really!

yangguo · #27 11-03-2010, 07:05 PM

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Originally Posted by meisawai

Tks bro.. Ah Neo's episode really made me think things through.. my OC " will not " be so forgiving..

Your "OC" can be forgiving if you are as rich as our producer Ah Neo..

Just kidding la..

If you are not sure of the outcome, why should you take the risks ah???

Stay faithful is a safer bet.. I reckon.

tyro · #28 11-03-2010, 07:09 PM

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Originally Posted by yangguo

Your "OC" can be forgiving if you are as rich as our producer Ah Neo..

Just kidding la..

If you are not sure of the outcome, why should you take the risks ah???

Stay faithful is a safer bet.. I reckon.

Well said. I was in a similar situation and I stayed away. On hindsight I believe I did the right thing.