Ever fell for your housemate?

jimmyccc · #1 16-09-2011, 06:26 PM

I'm currently working away from my home, wife and kids. Shared this apartment with 3 other colleugues (all gals, 1xmalaysian 2xindonesian, 2 married and 1 single). We are very close together, always doing this together. Out of the 3 of them, i kind of clicked better with one of them.

Problem now is that i'm falling for her and worst of all she's married. Can't get her out of my mind, always want to be with her and gets kind of jealous when she's close to other men.

alan0338 · #2 16-09-2011, 08:17 PM

just make her dulan with u since u cant control ur feelings anymore, better to lose her attention than to lose ur family

jimmyccc · #3 16-09-2011, 08:28 PM

Did think of that but then I'll have trouble bumping into her every day and night. We are housemate. I want to keep that nice homely feeling in the house.

Ichigo_Kurosaki · #4 16-09-2011, 09:10 PM

Wait....Hang on a sec........

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Originally Posted by jimmyccc

I'm currently working away from my home, wife and kids. Shared this apartment with 3 other colleugues (all gals, 1xmalaysian 2xindonesian, 2 married and 1 single). We are very close together, always doing this together. Out of the 3 of them, i kind of clicked better with one of them.

Problem now is that i'm falling for her and worst of all she's married. Can't get her out of my mind, always want to be with her and gets kind of jealous when she's close to other men.

Please clarify on this - She also flirt with other men ?

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Originally Posted by jimmyccc

Did think of that but then I'll have trouble bumping into her every day and night. We are housemate. I want to keep that nice homely feeling in the house.

The air is thicker & heated up at home now - No longer homely & Warm - More like a bit of lust, love and hate feeling now.

alan0338 · #5 16-09-2011, 09:30 PM

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Originally Posted by jimmyccc

Did think of that but then I'll have trouble bumping into her every day and night. We are housemate. I want to keep that nice homely feeling in the house.

paiseh hor, but looks more like u wanna devour her

just remember tat family is more important than anything, everything will be fine

MrGreen · #6 16-09-2011, 10:01 PM

Sometime talk is easy... I have a colleague at work, she is my type and we work close. Frequently sit together to discuss work. I joke and flirt with her and she doesnt seem to mind...

Deep inside, I already lusting for her... But just control only. Too I feel jealous when other guys gets too close. But cannot too obvious... I understand it is hard to control, as long as she did not show interested I keep my distance. Too much Liao, go look for Tom yam to let go of the beast within.

If one day, If only hor, I found she also interested or show affection towards me, I think my small head will overtake my big head. Sad la...

for now I prefer no string Attached flings, PF&FO as bro sammyboy advise (not advice)

ofallwhyme · #7 18-09-2011, 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by adver

Bro,
You need to find out what is important to you?
Is it worth risking your happy family?

Cheers.

x2 !

10chars

jimmyccc · #8 20-09-2011, 11:20 AM

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Originally Posted by Ichigo_Kurosaki

Wait....Hang on a sec........

Please clarify on this - She also flirt with other men ?

The air is thicker & heated up at home now - No longer homely & Warm - More like a bit of lust, love and hate feeling now.

Nope, she not "flirting" with other guys. Now she kind of know I've changed in my behaviour and getting jealous that kind of things. Lately she tried to distance herself from me, getting a friend to be the third man. I know they just putting up a show (he told me later on).

jimmyccc · #9 20-09-2011, 11:22 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by adver

Bro,
You need to find out what is important to you?
Is it worth risking your happy family?

Cheers.

Well, I know family is important but like some brothers here sat, its easier said than done. Well I think now the matter will have to be solved. I don't want to lose her as a "friend" too because I cannot.control.my feelings.

Ichigo_Kurosaki · #10 20-09-2011, 11:37 AM

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Originally Posted by jimmyccc

Nope, she not "flirting" with other guys. Now she kind of know I've changed in my behaviour and getting jealous that kind of things. Lately she tried to distance herself from me, getting a friend to be the third man. I know they just putting up a show (he told me later on).

IMHO, seems like she is trying to keep you at arm's length. It's an obvious sign that she is avoiding physical proximity with you and that you are not on her mind cos if she's attracted to you, she will naturally want to be close to you. Her evasive actions can be translated as she is consciously trying to avoid leading you on or trying to avoid having to turn down your advances later. She may also be protecting her personal space, so make sure you don't get too close. You should take it as a sign that you're not her type. You may continue to hope that one day she'll come around or to throw in the towel to avoid further awkward situations for both of you. Good luck!

goodpartner · #11 21-09-2011, 05:35 PM

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Originally Posted by jimmyccc

I'm currently working away from my home, wife and kids. Shared this apartment with 3 other colleugues (all gals, 1xmalaysian 2xindonesian, 2 married and 1 single). We are very close together, always doing this together. Out of the 3 of them, i kind of clicked better with one of them.

Problem now is that i'm falling for her and worst of all she's married. Can't get her out of my mind, always want to be with her and gets kind of jealous when she's close to other men.

First, meditate and ask yourself what your REALLY want from her?
1) Just to get into her pants?
Or
2) Forsake your family back home and start a new one with her (and get her to the same)?
Or
3) Escape from this entanglement altogether?

Then we can better advise you.

If 1) then lock yourself with her in one of the room and see how, then FR here.
If 3) then find a new accomodation.
If 2) ... then you'll get full load of shit from bros here

Ichigo_Kurosaki · #12 21-09-2011, 05:58 PM

Another possibility could be that you been away from your wife and been starving for sometime, making matter worst is living with 3 female housemates with this married one is the "sex steroid". So perhaps you need to release your troopers elsewhere regularly, this should make you feel better

p/s: I know the feeling cos I used to stay with 2 female housemates (1 x Thai and 1 x latina) but that's another story entirely cos we were all single. It also didn't make any matter worst when one of them dropping her towel during 1 breakfast morning