Need advice, married but under SEX...

[MrGreen]

This is my first post. and I already need some advice from the bros here. Just to mention, I have cheong less than 10times for the pass yrs (only special occassion like friends Birthday, Bachelor night). But now I am itching to go havoc!

I am married 10yrs+ with 2 kids, I love my wife alot. She is my first GF and I am her first BF. She is everything I desired! She's got big beautiful eyes, Fun loving, Intelligent (abit naive), Slightly fleshy but proportional (I Like), Tone Legs & tight butt (Certified PTI! don't play play. She can out run me 2.4km). Best of all, she is down to earth, very thrifty, No makeup (natural beauty), expensive purse, bags, accessories or apparels! Wah Lau eh, where to find!

She is a very conservative women, I cannot do more than holding hands and Kissing Lips during BF/GF days. A few rare times managed to score hand caressing inner thigh and firm B+ Breast (under the bra...). Already very lucky! Without fail, She will stop me (believe me, PTI cannot force one!) and say she wanna keep them safe for my hubby. Hear liao Sian ½ but also steam (I am and will be the FIRST)

When we got married, our first time is a total joke... a pair of blur cock and pussy, but manage to make it happened. We made love a few times after that. But soon, she started giving lame excuses. PMS, tired, tomorrow working, wanna watch late night TV, sleepy...

Some friends say must arouse her and try different position. But she only want Missionary, saying other position not moral (WTF?!), Worst! she say Oral Sex is for animals. SO UNTIL TODAY, I HAVE NOT TASTED PUSSY nor have a BJ done on me! Our make love session soon got lesser, freq drops to monthly, once 2 to 3 months.

I tried talking to her, stating researches have shown that our sex life is not healthy. She then compare to some unknown friends that can do without sex... Basically, SHE HAS ZERO SEX DRIVE. While mine is damn high. I have to PCC every night (sometimes twice day). KNN, the women I desire most, sleeping beside me and cannot make love.

But, fact is I am a sniper (as mentioned by my friends). through we rarely make love, I manage to score 2 boys. After 2 kids, she now looks like Chen LiPing (water retention, give her money to sliming, she say don't waste money). AND WORST still refusing my approach (New reason: kids watching!!!)

Now I am itching to go havoc. I watch (and have) so much porno that I am the distributor in my office. During lunch, my eyes scan for chiobu.. I need to go somewhere to release. Is this wrong? am I unfaithful? As a man, I have my needs (especially when I have a high drive). My friends told me to go and even offer to bring me to KTV. Saying this is just to release tension no feeling involved. SO "I am not cheating on my wife!"

Apologies for the long winded story... In dilemma, every advise counts. Especially from ladies. Thank you...

[squiggle]

1. Help your wife with housework when you are free. Once all the life & family matters are settle. You will have lots of free time for each other.

2. Get her mood up by talking dirty, touching or watching porn together if possible. Praise her on her appearance & etc.

3. If not. Play a trick with her. Act like normal & don't think about sex. Focus with your life. Then your wife might feel weird or bored without sex. This will make her request sex from you more. Which is even better lol!


The following links will be useful for you:

wife sex life - Google Search

How to Improve Your Sex Life - wikiHow

Making Love To Your Wife - eHow.com


Good luck to you. Hope you have a happy & healthy family.

[Xgenre]

Stop trying to find reasons to find sex outside.

1. You are trying to blame her for forcing you to search for sex outside. To make yourself feel justified and starting looking for sex outside and to make yourself feel less guilty after commercial sex is completed?

2. Why is having sex outside not cheating on your wife? Imagine your wife going to other men for sex, will the reason of 'no feelings involved' mean that she didn't cheat on you?

Just to throw ideas around, try to tackle the problem in these manners.

1. Outright ultimatum. Just tell her you need to make love and to love her in a physical way. You are lusty. If she cannot provide you this basic need, then tell her that she should give you 100% of her backing if you want to outsource your lust outside. Some wives wake up when the bare facts are laid out to her. Other wives just approve their husbands going out to fuck. Then in return, they hope their husbands will leave them alone.

2. Use religion to talk to her. Some religions say the wife must submit to the husband. As a good lady of the religion, the wife must perform her duties. If she is staunch believer, maybe she might be affected enough to change?

3. Maybe you are a lousy lover and she don't enjoy due to your lack of skills. I think she's your first and only girl so far right, besides commercial sex? Commercial sex workers don't need you to be skillful in foreplay, as long as you are thick in the wallet. Maybe she got put-off by your rough handling?

4. I won't try to cheong behind her back as yet. If you get caught now, it's byebye family and to your 2 sons. The cost is simply too high for a moment of lust. Ever thought of marriage counselling? Hint to her that you are thinking (thinking only ah) of filing for separation due to your inner frustrations. Normally, this really wakes up the wife.

Whatever it is, your No 1 biggest mistake is that you didn't test drive before marriage. Who will buy a car just for its shape and not take it for a test drive? As a result of this mistake, you failed to forsee how a current situation like this may occur. If sex isn't important to you during the courting days, how come it's so important to you now? Aren't you horny before marriage as well? Your wife probably thinks that if you can survive without sex before marriage, you can survive without it AFTER marriage as well.

[MrGreen]

Thanks, appreciate the for the fast respond.

Bro squiggle:
- I am already doing house work... Sweeping, mobbing, laundry, etc...

- Talk dirty? She ask me to behave myself (sounds like my mum), touch her? She will give all kinds of reason and push my hands away. Watch porno, she says it is disgusting and fake...

- Act blur, tried... 3 mths no response. I even told her I go PCC she act as if it is OK

Xgenre: I am not finding reason to go F around outside... I am trying to find ways to improve my sex life... Appreciate you reinforce this... I would have gone to GL and F around liao. I have the transport, the ability and have friends who are available on call.

- I casually mention... Ooi I go GL to relieve myself. Her respond "Go LOh" WTF? I believed she just saying it and doesn't mean it.

- Religion - Out of the Question. we're Buddhist... I don't think anywhere in the scripture say need to make love... Infact, to get rid of desire.

- Lousy lover, I have to agree. Make love frequency low, and she don't want to try other positions. how to gain experience? It is so monotonous. She doesn't want me to play with her puss. Most 90% of the action we see on porn is restricted. If I gradually tries to force it down (BJ, Lick pussy) she walk away with my dick standing. She doesn't even want to HJ for me...

- I will not threaten my wife with separation or anything to hurt her.

- During courtship no sex... Am I going to breakup with her just because she wanna keep her virginity for her hubby to be?

Just to make thing clear. I am not finding reasons to go Fuck around outside. Or maybe subconsciously the way I wrote my initial post is already a dead give away. Think I will PCC... or spend some money buy a vibrator or something.

[Tenacious]

If you wanna play outside, make sure u play safe to minimize risk of bringing back diseases.

If you can, try not to think about it so much. Lust is uncontrollable mostly when you keep thinking its a big deal. Im sure everytime after u pcc, all the anger and thoughts of going out to have fun disappear too.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by Tenacious

If you wanna play outside, make sure u play safe to minimize risk of bringing back diseases.

If he doesn't have sex with his wife anymore, the chance of passing on STDs is negligible.

I say go for it! Nothing beats a commercial fuck!

[squiggle]

If not. Both of you get drunk or something lol.

• Eat food that will get your mood up.
  
• Seek doctors for advice or something.

Make sure your wife never cheat on you or something.

Find out what she likes/dislikes & problems. It's the only way.

low sex drive:

http://www.google.com.sg/search?hl=e...=low+sex+drive

[squiggle]

Originally Posted by sammyboyfor

If he doesn't have sex with his wife anymore, the chances of passing on STDs is negligible.

I say go for it! Nothing beats a commercial fuck!

Ya but. No matter how pretty the FL are. You can't get true sex feeling + sensation with them. Only with your true love.

Last time I fked with a Thai FL. When doing cowgirl. See only looked at my cock at all times. Only look at me twice that's all. See whether I cum or not. To end the job fast

Only your true love will want a sweet, nice & love sex session with you.

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by squiggle

Only your true love will want a sweet, nice & love sex session with you.

You should have gathered by now that "true loves" aren't interested in sex.

[alan0338]

TS, you better keep a look out on your wife.

[DO_YOU_BJ]

We i married my 1st wife, I said she da best in the world, so i proclaim 收山
When I married my second wife, i had the best mind blowing sex and a woman who i can totally CIM in and she sucks me dry plus swallows......again i proclaimed 收山for i felt i was a very complete man....one wif so caring and the family giver the other was my soul mate and pleasurizer
The i married my 3rd wife, cos she so sweet, demure, witty smart.....again i proclaimed the same shit and told the 2 above her that i'll take in no more wives.
Just this year alone, i've already had 3 relationships wif 3 diff singers, 2 from the same joint one from 2 floors above.
So, my advise to you is, dun tok so much.....
JUST DO IT!

The beauty is that, thing you wont do to your own wife, due to that respect, you'll let your animal hunger run wild on these women.........
Dunno who to look for?????
Contact the god of sleaze, non other than our bro WarBird!

[sammyboyfor]

Originally Posted by DO_YOU_BJ

So, my advise to you is, dun tok so much.....
JUST DO IT!

Should be "my ADVICE to you is.....:.

"Advise" is a verb.

[queey]

Bro I'm kinda in a similar state as you....just kinda but I won't elaborate much as its not important. I also PCC alot as my wife do not really like sex. She only BJ me like 5sec and lie down wait for me to go on top. So I choose to go commercial. I always tell myself I only live once, should try new stuffs and I liked sex so I think I should try more varieties. Once u hit 50...I think its almost time to say bye bye to cheong life.

[ahblur69]

I'm having the same problem with my wife. I thought it is okay, but after a year without loving sex. I can't take it anymore. I don't like to force it on my partner but I enjoy sex, and always have been. Now my feel for her has become stalemate and is one of the factors that make me even think do I want to carry on to live the rest of my life with her. Currently I'm trying to seek help with marriage counsellor. Luckily I still do not have kids.
Remember this - when 2 person needs and expectation mismatch and cannot be compromised, it is only a matter of time before one explode and game over.

[jasdude]

sex makes the world goes round ! sex is just a physical release needed by both sexes . love is different ! try to save your marriage bro !

communication is the key to all . try counselling and seek help from professionals OR plan for a surprise hoilday just for the two of you . no kids no work no in laws no friends no telephone . just get away to someway near of far and rediscover why in the first place you two fell in love or got attracted to each other .

if all else fails

try and try again for the sake of the kids . as for your physical needs . play it safe for your own health and for the relationship that is already dented with your wife !