Is there any sex consultant in SG?

[clapton]

Just now while talking to my frd, on his and my bad sex exp with wife, suddenly come out this thought.

I can't remember it's from TV or newspaper, there is kind of sex consultant will help couples to resolve their sexual problems and give advices?

Is there any in SG?

[5ag1_Boar]

Dr Martha Lee: www.ErosCoaching.com

[buscopan]

Originally Posted by clapton

Just now while talking to my frd, on his and my bad sex exp with wife, suddenly come out this thought.

I can't remember it's from TV or newspaper, there is kind of sex consultant will help couples to resolve their sexual problems and give advices?

Is there any in SG?

Dr. Wei Siang Yu aka Dr. Love

https://www.facebook.com/#!/drweisiangyu?fref=ts

[clapton]

Originally Posted by 5ag1_Boar

Dr Martha Lee: www.ErosCoaching.com

Originally Posted by buscopan

Dr. Wei Siang Yu aka Dr. Love
https://www.facebook.com/#!/drweisiangyu?fref=ts

Tks Bro! Also any exp to share?

[kjjsexy]

Jus want some advice on this...

Hubby was off-sex and when probed, could only compromised to have sex at most once a week. He also insisted to have personal time for self-stimulation. Is his sexual behaviour normal? My gut feeling about him was that he wasn't that normal as I'm always the one initiating sex and even get rejected at times. He makes time for self-stimulation (he also has bra fetish) but when it comes to sexing with me tends to come up with excuses.

[MattJB]

Originally Posted by kjjsexy

Jus want some advice on this...

Hubby was off-sex and when probed, could only compromised to have sex at most once a week. He also insisted to have personal time for self-stimulation. Is his sexual behaviour normal? My gut feeling about him was that he wasn't that normal as I'm always the one initiating sex and even get rejected at times. He makes time for self-stimulation (he also has bra fetish) but when it comes to sexing with me tends to come up with excuses.

To me, he's abnormal.it could be work stress or less sex desire toward spouse.
do u think u still have d same attraction as before?

[DemonicSS]

Originally Posted by kjjsexy

Jus want some advice on this...

Hubby was off-sex and when probed, could only compromised to have sex at most once a week. He also insisted to have personal time for self-stimulation. Is his sexual behaviour normal? My gut feeling about him was that he wasn't that normal as I'm always the one initiating sex and even get rejected at times. He makes time for self-stimulation (he also has bra fetish) but when it comes to sexing with me tends to come up with excuses.

I see 2 possibilities:

1) He's a monosexual - meaning he loves himself and himself only. Its different to vanity. In other words, his idea of sex is to create another one of him to fuck with.

2) His bra fetish has gone out of control - Your hubby may be like a hamster trying to hide his stash. In his case, a stash of bras that is both yours and of others that he has collected over time. This would be an addiction. So treating it will be like any other forms.

In both cases, you will need to talk or find ways to find out what he is actually doing to determine what is wrong. In this, I find there is nothing really to get upset about as there isn't really a point to. If he is really in any of the 2 options I mentioned, he wouldn't give a hoot about who you fuck with as "you are not his high", and you can move on to fulfill your desires elsewhere.

[lanpar]

Originally Posted by clapton

Just now while talking to my frd, on his and my bad sex exp with wife, suddenly come out this thought.

I can't remember it's from TV or newspaper, there is kind of sex consultant will help couples to resolve their sexual problems and give advices?

Is there any in SG?

My colleague joined our company about six months ago and we hit off extremely well. After knowing me for a few weeks, I believe he trusted me enough to share with me that he and his newly-wed wife were both facing consummation problem.

Every time his wife initiated sex, he was unable to get erected and this caused a lot of frustration between his wife and him and they even ended up with several quarrels and a divorce was imminent.

He revealed that they had been seeing a sex consultant for almost a year and no improvement was made.

At that time when he shared with me about his frustrating sex life, he and his wife had still not given up hope and they persisted in seeing their sex consultant.

Having fucked so many women, I decided to share with him what I would do if I was in his situation. I was conscious and careful not to put up any false front of bravado like many coffee shop and chiongster talks and focused wholly on giving him practical tips.

A few weeks later, my colleague thanked me for the improved sex life his wife and him suddenly gained. He then revealed to me that he was thankful to have taken the courage to tell me about his sexual life problem.

My friend concluded that sex consultants are only armed with bookish knowledge as evident by their academic qualifications and certifications but they are unable to "prescribe" something out of the box. He revealed that prior to seeing their sex consultant, he and his wife had basically read every book and devoured every information form the Internet and they found that the suggestions from the sex consultant was nothing new. He said that my suggestion was unique and practical. I supposed it comes with real-life experience, from not once but countless number of times of having sex with so many different women.

Personally, I felt that a sex consultant provides a professional service for people who have no one to turn to for a topic on sex that is considered a taboo and embarrassing by many. Not many people have the courage to tell someone about his or her sexual problem.

His wife is pregnant with his child now and he is so happy to be a father soon.

[kjjsexy]

Wow, u can be a sex consultant liao!

Can I consult u? Hehe!

I'm 35 and hubby in his 40s and I've been with him since I was 19. At that time, I was easily aroused by fondling (due to prior experiences) but when it came to the sex act I was a total greenhorn. I didn't find it orgasmic and still preferred to masturbate with my pillow, how I used to. During our decade long couplehood, I even told him I disliked giving BJs and that he couldn't satisfy me during sex. Nevertheless, he initiated sex and I obliged.

After marriage and delivery of my 2 children, my focus shifted totally on them and since we had quarrels due to MIL and kids issues, we drifted apart and sex lessened. After I entered my 30s, I found myself having a higher sex drive and especially this year having discovered my hubby's bra fetish and me researching more into sex, it was like I hit sexual awakening at age 35. I began hankering after hubby for sex and when I could not get it I got emotional. My emotional outbursts stressed him alot and my aggressiveness puts him on the defensive.

Now I've tried very hard to get him to have regular sex with me as I need it, incorporating his bra collections and porn-viewing to entice him to have regular sex with me. I can have sex with him daily but our compromise is once a week but I'm working towards closing the gap to every 4-5 days. An I heading the right way? He also told me that he needed to self-stimulate though sex with me was pleasurable and that I had been accommodating to his needs. I wonder, since I've made myself so available, and he still needs to self-stimulate, does that mean he has some unfulfilled fantasies he can't share with me? How should I approach this and how should I manage my emotions?

[MoJoe313]

What advice did you give him?

[Samsung118]

Originally Posted by MoJoe313

What advice did you give him?

surf Sammyboyforum!!

[sgpsychologist]

With the exception of a few, most of us experience life as a series of events. In other word, what happened in the morning affects your mood in afternoon. Likewise, not being able to have a deeper connection will also affect your sex life. Everything is interrelated.

Hence, it is often not a problem but a symptom or result of another problem.

[freezetheDB]

bro lanpar pls share your advice here
im sure many of us can benefit from it as well

x

[kgbkgb]

Originally Posted by kjjsexy

Wow, u can be a sex consultant liao!

Can I consult u? Hehe!

I'm 35 and hubby in his 40s and I've been with him since I was 19. At that time, I was easily aroused by fondling (due to prior experiences) but when it came to the sex act I was a total greenhorn. I didn't find it orgasmic and still preferred to masturbate with my pillow, how I used to. During our decade long couplehood, I even told him I disliked giving BJs and that he couldn't satisfy me during sex. Nevertheless, he initiated sex and I obliged.

After marriage and delivery of my 2 children, my focus shifted totally on them and since we had quarrels due to MIL and kids issues, we drifted apart and sex lessened. After I entered my 30s, I found myself having a higher sex drive and especially this year having discovered my hubby's bra fetish and me researching more into sex, it was like I hit sexual awakening at age 35. I began hankering after hubby for sex and when I could not get it I got emotional. My emotional outbursts stressed him alot and my aggressiveness puts him on the defensive.

Now I've tried very hard to get him to have regular sex with me as I need it, incorporating his bra collections and porn-viewing to entice him to have regular sex with me. I can have sex with him daily but our compromise is once a week but I'm working towards closing the gap to every 4-5 days. An I heading the right way? He also told me that he needed to self-stimulate though sex with me was pleasurable and that I had been accommodating to his needs. I wonder, since I've made myself so available, and he still needs to self-stimulate, does that mean he has some unfulfilled fantasies he can't share with me? How should I approach this and how should I manage my emotions?

I'd think there are 2 issues here. The first being his fetish with bras. This is a psychological problem which I think he should be referred to a psychologist. The second issue here I believe is some kind of resentment he has towards you. This is probably built up over time and again I suggest this matter should also be openly discussed either with a counsellor or a psychologist with counselling skills.

[kjjsexy]

MattJB: thanx for suggestion. Apart from my small boobs, I'm confident of my looks in terms of tall and slim body and facial features. I suppose if he is into big boobs, then I cannot satisfy his fantasy in that manner.

Kgbkgb: thanx for your analysis. I've brought it up but he refused to go. He thinks he's alright and I'm the paranoid one. Now I'm trying to use his Christianity on him (I'm a non-believer but still attends church w hubby n kids cuz hubby wants it that way), to show him that both husband and wife are entitled to conjugal rights, and solo-sex though not legal is not what God wants him to do. Sigh, an uphill struggle...

Originally Posted by kgbkgb

I'd think there are 2 issues here. The first being his fetish with bras. This is a psychological problem which I think he should be referred to a psychologist. The second issue here I believe is some kind of resentment he has towards you. This is probably built up over time and again I suggest this matter should also be openly discussed either with a counsellor or a psychologist with counselling skills.