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I think you need to be clear and know what you want from this 3P first. Then you need to be confident enough to tell your wife and explain properly what you want from this and how she may benefit or enjoy from this or how you will enjoy from this. If she is keen, good, can go next step, but if she is not keen, then try to be understanding ya, try asking another time, maybe the time and mood was not right. Then the next step is lay down the rules with your wife ya, this part is very important, and make sure the other person understands the rules as well. Always keep in mind that it is OK that she walks off or feels uncomfortable and decides not to continue, even after you have spent effort and money to make all the arrangements ya. Do not get angry or frustrated and keep pestering, that is really a turn-off. Just be prepared to fail a few times, or a dozen times, or not succeed at all ya. Anyway, good luck ya!
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