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Originally Posted by Xyberduke
First of all, if your concern is your children, try talk her into a counselling session. Do note that you will have to go through it anyway during your divorce process due to the current laws, but it would be good not to go for counselling because it is part of your divorce proceedings, but rather, voluntarily. There must be a spark in your life that led to the marriage. Hopefully, that sparks have a little glow left in it. Divorce signifies the end of an unhappy marriage but also the start of a incomplete childhood for the children.
Now, if the above fails, you have several means to divorce, (1) Unreasonable behavior. You start the proceedings stating her adultery ways, she admits, and proceed with auxillary (assets, children). If she denies, court fight. (2) Adultery. It is not as simple as you claim and she admits. In court, it is about proof. You will need to engage a PI, the PI will settle everything for you. (3) Go for separation back-dated to the date you moved out.
Think of your children, Think hard if your marriage can still be savaged. Countless married men and women sleep around and have affairs.. Why would they do that and risk being shamed and ending up the defendant in divorces? Because they still have love (even a little tiny bit) and responsibility left in their marriage that they could not let go. Some just need someone to give them one tight slap to wake up.
Try your best to savage before proceeding to divorce. At least then, you will be able to answer to your children when they grow up with your head held high.
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Thank you for your time and clear advice bro, i truly appreciate it very much!
Now we opt to go out on weekends and see how it goes, even though i know she is ongoing with this guy. She even told me about their plan, i couldn't believe it.. like remarrying etc. seriously wtf.
I'll decide within the next few months, my evidence is like whatsapp chat, pictures and messages only. Perhaps i should hire a PI and keep the evidence in case one day she decides she wants something like (house, kids).
