What are my options?
 

I can't lie. I've always had the urge fuck every 2 days. I can go for a week without masturbating but the thought of not having sex only diverts my attention to using my hand for pleasure on a 2-3 days basis.

I'm short but lean and a little muscular. Similar to swimmer built. No girl ever approach or shown any interest in me even when I to do the leg work. so the thought of having a gf is out.

Paying for sex is fine but I don't have the money to pay for sex all the time cause leaves a dent in my wallet to be honest.

Online dating hookup... Well no one wants a short malay guy regardless if I were to be good looking or not. Tried every kind of dating app, zero no swipes, no chat. I even used a decent pic etc yet even my Chad friends are baffled at why I don't get any matches or replies when they're help me see through my profile. Yes, even the fat and unattractive ones don't reply or ghost me thereafter.

My only option at the moment is to go to a doctor and get this horniness fixed permanently like pill suppressant or vececstomy.

Or just play with my right hand until I die.

I'm not picky. Just unlucky.
No money for long term commercial sex, no gf, no fwb, no online dating but am fucking horny over the moon.

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dude, a vasectomy wont help!!! Take it from me - I had it done - its to make you baby-proof, not to make you less horny. Also suppressants would mean chemical castration, which has a shit load of other health problems - no sane doctor will prescribe that. If you really cant help it - you need a shrink. Sex addiction is a real thing. They might prescribe something to keep you happy - maybe xanax or who knows what.

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Find a sport or hobby. Keep ur mind occupied. Make urself some friends n exercise. My guess is u still young.

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Maybe you're in the wrong hunting ground?
Perhaps try to expand your circles, meet more people.
I think girls like guys who can carry a conversation. While most girls are superficial, I think it is character that has a greater appeal on girls in the long run.
Don't be too dejected, it is normal to feel the urge, just need to channel it in the right places.

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I play sports and go to gym on a daily basis. Cant help but see milfs and syt at the gym also. Once one milf actually caught me staring at her while my south was erected. She gave me sigh and shake head and immediately walk away from the area. And it wasn't even like I was staring at her all the time, just a brief turn and that was it

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Then what are my logical options? Unless some kind soul want to throw me a bone of a FWB for me, I see my chances close to zero for everything else

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My teacher last time said go and play some sports

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some thoughts/suggestions/questions:

1) find other hobbies that you genuinely enjoy, that are not expensive and not difficult to start.

2) also, how do you view women in general? how are your interactions with SYT, women around your age, and MILFs? what sort of things do you talk about with them? yes, there is the primal urge of sex, but I find that having interactions/discussions about topics/interests changes your outlook towards sex.

3) make sure you get enough sleep so that you can filter your thoughts and urges.

4) how's your life looking like in general? are you happy? feeling lonely?

i was thinking maybe you could look up for psychology services but not sure if your wallet would allow. could be very helpful.

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Bro Balaallen123, if you don't mind me saying/asking:

How young are you? If you are young, it's normal to have such urges. If you are much older, congratulations cos it's a rare blessing! You don't know what you have until you lose it bro!

No offense bro but even in today's day and age, girls will always prefer that guys approach them first, unless you are talking about cougars. You are muscular - that's a plus, you should work on your strengths. Go out more and go to different places. For sure you will hit the jackpot one day.

Nobody is asking you to go for paid sex regularly. I mean, my son loves to eat Swensen's but that doesn't mean I bring him there very weekend, am I right?

You are Malay?

Wow! I don't mean to be racist but Malay girls are the horniest and I know of some Chinese girls willing to date Malay guys. Again, you are sitting on something that Chinese and Indian brothers can only dream of.

So, what are you waiting for?

Bro, dating apps don't 'work properly' unless you are a paying or paid member. There could be girls responding to you but because you are not a paid member, they are unable to respond to you.

Also, you need to remember that guys outnumber girls in these apps so if you refuse to pay then you have to have better 'typing skills' than the other guys out there.

Like one bro posted here, no point.

I have a friend who castrated his dog because vet says this will reduce its urge to 'mark territory' or hump legs.

Guess what?

The dog still does it.

This is a better idea! But play using your right hand, not with your right hand because I don't see how the latter could be enjoyable? Heh heh!

Well, at least you know where your problem lies or like one of the brothers mentioned - you are hunting in the wrong pond. Trust us when we say this cos most of us been there and done that; you are just fishing in the wrong pond bro.

It's like you are going to a satay stall to order vegetarian meals.

Bro, trust me when I say that gf is not the end of your problems. Unless you find a girl with an equally high sex drive.

I had one who wanted to save her virginity for marriage. Another who gets sore easily. In the end, I had to 'DIY'. And not forgetting that you need to 'maintain; your relationship with your gf.

FWBs are another issue. Might not solve your horny issue.

Just my humble opinion, Bro Balaallen123. Just don't want you to make the same mistakes as me last time, that's all. No offense.

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Did you try wearing chastity cage? Then get someone to hold the keys or I can keep for you :p

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To be honest what I do is simply to just rub it out. Change my genre of porn once in a while to 'keep it fresh'. My horniness now is more like periodic. Sometimes I will also have the urge to fuck for a couple of weeks, sometimes I just don't have the urge, so can go a while without jerking off. FLs will also dent the wallet if for the two weeks I'm horny I keep booking FLs so I just tell myself to masturbate one time good one then I can save money for that day already.

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just wondering if someone could bump up my reputation point if you find this post of mine thoughtful? would appreciate that!

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Totally agree with you bro on the changing of porn genre haha. Yes, sometimes the regret after spending is just sian. Not about affordability, more of what we could have done with the money spent.

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Since you intend to go to the doctor, ask the doc if he has any medication to help you grow taller.....this will help I think.....

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It's not the looks. You just have no game.

Read this book for reference (not guidance).

If you cannot find an e-source, PM me.

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Agree. Most girls do not go for looks. They go for personality.

"No girl ever approach or shown any interest in me"

TS
Wrong., girls don't approach guys. They expect guys to approach them.

It is a numbers game. Like selling insurance. Ratios and percentages. Cold call 100. 5 will listen to you. Out of the 5, one will buy. Repeat another 100.

Forget dating apps if it does not work. Girls want guys to take the initiative. In real life. Not swipe an app. You can swipe her, you can swipe another just as quick. They know it.

You need to change your view. Enlarge your real life social circles. Learn to be humorous. Be humble. Be thick skinned. Want your pride, use your right hand for life.

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I used to have such crazy sex urges.
Once I have them today, I thought that I will focus more on work and other stuff tomorrow but I was wrong.
Maybe I think I had an addiction but I try really hard not to think about sex and porn.

Try to do other things like exercise, watch documentaries and things of interest.
I have to constantly remind myself that any immoral thoughts I had will lead to da police if u have the money.. u can always do all sorts of sexual stuff.

I know it's difficult to find a partner for life. Girls nowadays can be quite intelligent and yet intimidating.
Think positive stuff.. your life may change for better

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Like one bro said earlier it's not about your height. Its that you have no game. Get back on those dating apps, Tinder, CMB, Bumble. Go to youtube or google and learn how to chat up girls, flirt with them, move it to a meet and more from there. Don't worry about rejection coz practice makes perfect. Just keep doing it.

I can say this with confidence coz I was out of the dating scene for ages and had to relearn from scratch last year. Took awhile and a shit ton of chats but once you get better at it gets easier. Skip all those China/Taiwan/Chinese looking profiles who look too pretty to be true, they just want to talk to you about investments and scam you.

As a final word of encouragement, if a 39 yr old dude like me can land a hot 24 yr old gf, you can do it too. Go get them!

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Upped u.........

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I'm not sure if this is right but I have heard of a concept called 'Pheromone stink' - wherein you are so in pursuit of sex that you give off pheromones that actually repel the other gender. But science or not, I think the other bros above are right, don't resort to such extreme measures and try to find an outlet. Cheers.

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Girls can smell desperation through the screen. The best place to meet women is doing activities. Get involved with things. Volunteer. Take some class. Play some sports. I meet so many single women everywhere I go (I am happily attached and just do P4P for variety so I dont search for another GF). When you meet on an activity you automatically have something in common and something to talk about. Also, go with the intention just to have fun and meet people, not fuck anyone. You will be amazed at the results.

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Thanks for heads up brother. And about the me sleeping on malay girls... I don't have that much malay friends to begin with cause they don't seem to like me much. Been like this since secondary school up till now. no minah no girls interested

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For 2) I act normally around both old and young. And frankly I'm surrounded by loads of girls but the problem is, I'm not interested in them cause they are younger than my age. I like older women better. But generally no one said I act out differently. In fact, I'm kinda like the social guy in the group. Just so happen my pool of friends are mostly guys and that's it.

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Problem is I don't even get to match, so I can't even talk to them in the first place

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Go look up the YouTube channel 'School of Attraction' and search for videos about getting more matches. It's all about the pics.

And also you need to have game. Reading the game book as another poster mentioned earlier is a great first step, that's like an overview of the pickup scene. There are a lot of know-how that you need to learn about how to attract girls. This is the biggest thing. Actually the biggest thing is your pictures because if you get zero matches it doesn't matter how much game you have so go watch the channel above first, but after you get the matches if you don't know how to interact with girls such that they are attracted and you don't know how to lead the date to get to the sex location, you won't get what you want.

Go and study.

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Oh and if there wasn't covid I would have suggested you to cheat and go to Manila for a week. In my experience Manila is by far the easiest city to get laid in in the world. I regularly could get 3 girls in a day there. If you can't get laid in Manila I'd say there's no hope for you anywhere. But unfortunately we can't travel now.

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What about orchard towers on the weekends?

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That place was full of hookers pre covid. Not sure about now. Unless hookers are your thing don't waste your time there.

I wasn't talking about hookers here, I was talking about real results with real girls from online apps, without money involved.

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you can try blowjob your own kkj. might get too addictive though.

1. buy a nice brown hair wig.
2. buy a nice sexy dress and C cup padded bra.
3. wear the dress and bra and wig.
4. stand in front of mirror then touch yourself all over and think ish the girl touching you.
5. kum your own kkj and imagine is the girl trying to blow job you.

this is not ghey, it's just another way of masturbating.

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I think you need to look at your options logically. If you're a malay guy in SG without much money for commercial sex but stuck with a damn high sex drive then your best option will be to seek out lonely Indon maids. There are many of them in SG and for many of the younger ones, virtually any Malay guy here is a huge upgrade over the Indon guys they are used to seeing back home. Most Indon ladies are actually very approachable and for them there is little downside in getting to know a local.

The other option that is (unfortunately) closed for now, is to find a gf (of sorts) in Batam. Again it is a question of relative advantage. Virtually any Singaporean Malay man is viewed positively as a prospective partner, whereas over here trying to land yourself a local Minah pussy will require you to compete with (too many) others. Ditto chasing a Chinese or Indian pussy, even tougher since you have less common ground.

Not meant to insult in any way. I understand the difficult predicament of the Singaporean Malay man. To give you an analogy - your situation is the same as a fat Indo Chinese girl seeking an eligible Indo Chinese guy. Literally an ice cube chance in hell.